Category: How to communicate the right way
Is it wise to widen the clientele for prosthetic arms, and is it wise to get more crappy "bionic" arms publicly funded?
It is an open debate currently, whether it is wise:
- to widen the clientele for prosthetic arms or to start mobilizing non-users or dropped out users of prosthetic arms, and
- to get more crappy "bionic" arms funded publicly.
The answer is, to both, .....
While we wait for the self-imposed media hype to accompany the current deep societal misunderstandings that allow for "Cybathlon" to happen - an unbearably useless and utter waste of money inasmuch as most of the presented prosthetic arms there are concerned, not just because these arms are expensive but technologically wrong for any real physical work, perpetuating history since the times of the Carnes arm - we can refresh our minds with the ideas and attitudes of down to earth and real, socially well integrated people. Like, me : )
It is intriguing that overly massive media pressure can bring proponents of new ideas in prosthetics to crawl back.
If, as typical in prosthetic arms since over 100 years (e.g., Carnes Arm, or, Russian Arm), "new products" are hyped up to no end, this can be a logical result: expectation and reality differences are stretched until a snap occurs.
Within the riddles, toings and froings of faked disability and disfigurements in cinema, there are rare highlights.
Deadpool, best movie quote.
The mutual viewing of who of us when regarding each other is more, or less, human has a potentially big impact on societal cohesion.
Prosthetic arms today - at least inasmuch as the "bionic" arms hype is concerned - are by far a more societal than practical aspect, so these aspects play a massive role. Once even technical researchers give up honest technical work in their attempt to reach for the fame and society grapes, they start to attach themselves to a dynamic that is neither obvious nor cool. I already strongly advised arm amputees to abandon that social dynamic actively as not doing that will result in actual problems (link). But it starts smooth and nicely before escalating into what one might actually call "the Voight-Kampff chambers of hell of symbolic attribution in attempting mutual acceptance as human".
#voightkampff test - dilemma Attitude Cybathlon 2016 Disability and the public Discrimination How to communicate the right way Impact of visible disability on non-disabled people Media Objectification Prosthetics Specifications and comparisons Stigmatization Symbolism
How to actually pick, choose, decide for a particular type and make of a prosthetic arm [mental flow chart]
Just because you cannot comprehend something does not mean no one else can. And just because you cannot do it, it is not necessarily the person you think that can do it, that can do it. It may just be a bit different.
Beim Aussehen geht es um Starren, Ansehen, es geht in zweiter Linie um territoriale Ansprüche, und dann um intuitive Kompetenzeinschätzung.
Art Article in German - Artikel auf Deutsch Artwork and Do It yourself Corner Attitude Design principles Disability and the public How to communicate the right way Impact of visible disability on non-disabled people Prosthetics Red Hand Series / Technical Design Series
And as soon as one believes that one has seen it all - screetch, something new comes up that is so unbelievably good.
Because since a while, I do not visit real clothes or shoe shops so often any more. Every now and then maybe, but much rather, I order stuff on-line. With a visible handicap, Zurich's clothes or shoe shops just may not be the best place to go or be.
By far the worst, of course, is the Walder shoe shop in the Glatt shopping center. Usually, at least one shoe sales force employee takes it upon herself to take a hard unabashed observant stare at me, from safe distance, while I struggle to bind the shoe in an attempt to try them on. The. Shoe. Singular (not plural). Simply because I usually don't make it past one shoe. The staring there is not comfortable. Maybe, I want to feel at ease? Maybe, I just want to try on a few shoes and not be bothered in that way? But not always one has to bear getting started at by one employee. It also happened that three of them stood next to each other, lined up, at a safe 5 meter distance, to take a full, unabridged, entirely frame filling Baroque stare at me while I tried on some type of winter boot. Three staring idiots, that is not negotiable with me. No embarrassment there, no remorse, and definitely no apology. That is an aspect of shopping in and around Zurich.
So, I do hate going to these shops, rarely are sales people a true help there. More often, they wreck my day. In many regards, not buying anything there is more likely to make my days rich and beautiful. And to arrive there, as people that run shops, and that attempt to sell their stuff, is an achievement on its own, one has to hand them that. There are rare exceptions, really great clothes or shoe sales people that treat me as an adult customer. These exist. Just to so frequently.
But now, there are these shape variations in shop window mannequins. One has to see these.
Und hat man gedacht man haette schon fast alles gesehen, was sich so tun koennte - platsch, kommt was ganz neues daher, das unglaublich gut ist.
Ich gehe ja schon eine Weile nicht mehr ganz so oft in echte Kleiderlaeden, sondern bestelle die Sachen gerne meist im Internet. Man fuehlt sich mit sichtbarem Handicap in Kleiderlaeden oder Schuhlaeden in und um Zuerich oft sehr schlecht aufgehoben.
Das schlimmste aus einer ganzen Reihe sich eher seltsam anfuehlender Laeden ist da jeweils der Walder Schuhladen im Glattzentrum, wo mir ueblicherweise mindestens eine Schuhverkaeuferin aus Abstand gebannt auf den Schuh starrt, wenn ich versuche, den zuzubinden. Den. Schuh. Mehr als einen anzuprobieren halte ich irgendwie nicht aus, ich moechte vielleicht meine Ruhe haben beim Versuch, die zuzubinden? Ich will mir vielleicht ungestoert Zeit lassen?
Nicht immer ist es nur, dass man dort eine aushalten muss; nein, sie waren dort auch schon zu dritt, die sich nebeneinander in etwa 5 Metern Sicherheitsabstand aufgebaut hatten, um mich bei der Schuhanprobe unablaessig anzustarren. Und drei Glotzpuppen, das ist schon heftig. Von Scham oder Reue denn auch kaum je kein Gefuehl dort, kein Wort der Entschuldigung, kein nichts.
Ich gehe aeusserst ungern in diese Laeden, da ich die Verkaeufer und Verkaeuferinnen selten als echte Hilfe erlebe, die einem beim Kaufen helfen. Stattdessen versauen sie einem doch eher dann den Tag. Dann ist wirklich nichts kaufen billiger, in vieler Hinsicht.
Es gibt seltene tolle Ausnahmen. Verkaeufer oder Verkaeuferinnen, die kein Problem haben, die einen wie eine erwachsene Person behandelt, die selbst Dinge tun, ausprobieren, sehen will. Gibts schon. Aber selten.
Und jetzt gibt es Variantenformen bei Schaufensterpuppen! Das muss man sich ansehen.
The "Mansplained" blog site is run by guys that seem to specifically cater to chauvinistic explanations. In their own little chauvinistic way. Now remember before you start to fight fire with fire: the fire department always uses water. And then, I do have a visible handicap and also - if not particularly - as that I would suggest that appearances is not everything.
Realizing that the same objectionable treatment that men routinely seem to do to women by "mansplaining things (as either sex can be guilty of "mansplaining" things, see Urban Dictionary)", also may be given in particular by women (of course not exclusively), to men with a visible handicap or disability.
And that can be a powerfully painful realization. Also if not particularly to women that seem to believe they can get away with complaining about men but "(wo)mensplaining" to handicapped men at the same time.
Those then constitute a group that are part of a type of behavior that one might call "Wilde Hilde". All nice and dandy but if anything, such will not stand. Never will such behavior stand. Remember the dude? Il duderino? That will not stand.
A somewhat recent example. Let me mansplain.
This is a new occurrence - refreshing, well done and informative. That is the way things are done. Exactly that is what everyone expects everyone else to do. Chill, be nice.
Watch it. This is very instructive.
Attitude Disability and the public Discrimination Health How to communicate the right way Impact of visible disability on non-disabled people Media publishing adequate content Neurology, sociology and psychology Stigmatization Support