Of course it is an important subject. Of course it is that one item/part/region that some people stare at all the time. The arm stump, the defunct arm, the residual limb, the disabled arm, the disability. I may cover it up, wear stump warmers or attempt to wear even an artistic prosthesis - but it still is undeniably there, the uneasiness that a covered stump creates is at times palpable, and some even asked me to unpack it so they could take a closer look.
As Cloerkes so adequately puts it, people will be nervous, disturbed and distressed if confronted with visible disability - only if they can peek without me looking, only if they can approach this slowly and at their own pace may they eventually develop an understanding and feel less tense. If at all.
At the same time, other non-disabled people talking about it, asking me directly: that is considered taboo - which does not necessarily help some people that must satisfy their greedy curiosity. But it puts me at ease because talking about it also gets really boring and strenuous after a while. In some instances and after a while I did wonder, whether there are any other subjects to talk about. And when I get bored in such a way, black humor slips in which does not make it easier for other people either.
So as the disabled person is the one in charge of handling their communication (not the general public and certainly not that one intruding person that believes they are here to save me from whatever), I am to acknowledge that sheer voyeurism - which brings also people such as you here - has an alleged role in getting people in the 'general public' to relax. On the other hand, it is my exclusive right to keep information to myself.
I feel as if we - as a general public, as society - are on one side entirely hysterical about disability - people commit suicide, run ape shit, forget their medical duties regarding clear legal rights of the patient, grossly misbehave - and on the other side, we are completely frozen, shut up, missing perceptible dialog of any normal dimensions for the most part. If a disabled person comments their subject, a 'circus performance' is assumed and non-disabled people will listen, clap their hands, go home and shake their heads. If a non-disabled person dares to comment, it will almost automatically lack authenticity and depth. So we are already living in a somewhat segregated society, one that has an inside world and an outside world, one that - as example - has three members of the general public stare at me for enough time until I walk up to them, threaten them with physical violence, upon which they do not apologize but remain silent and leave the premises. This is a world that often lacks ideas necessary to generate words necessary to generate a normal dialog. This is a world that leads you, one of the many mute visitors, here.